- ~ Wldn't want to let go of her newly bought minnie bottle ~
Amira woke up very early today. At 8am - usually 10am coz she slept quite late. I guess she wanted to send of her Abah to work. It is ever so unpredictable with her. In everything. She can be cuddling, kissing, sayang2 you and the next minute it can be "NO FRIEND YOU!" - her favourite angry phrase not only to human beings(especially Abah, pity Abah) but to her toys or books too -hah-.
It could be over something VERY little, like for instance when she throws a ball to the front and turns out it goes to another direction, that can make her angry and what pisses me off more is that she will throw things around! Is it just a phase or is it a character of hers - short-tempered.
I remembered an incident when she got angry over her toy block just because she couldnt stack one of them. She started throwing every pieces everywhere! I just let her be, and when she's done, I calmly -it took GREAT effort to stay calm that time- told her that she was not supposed to do that, she should do her work slowly and try again if she couldnt do it the first time. After that I told her that I would have to ignore her UNTIL she clean up all the mess. I didn't know what got into her that day, but she stubbornly refused to clean up! Instead she asked me to do it. NO WAY!
So I went about doing my housework, she did come to me and said sorry, but still wouldn't pick up her blocks! When I asked her to clean again, she started to throw tantrums and
After she was calmed and again she was sorry, I told her to clean up again and told her if she did then I will play with her. But still, she was also determined not to! It lasted for about 1 and half hour, but in the end, SHE relented and started to clean up. Upon seeing that, I helped her and explained that her behaviour was unacceptable.
It seems harsh maybe that I did not want to give in to her and clean up for her. But in my opinion, I believe that this is the time we should teach them about discipline, that we MEAN our every words, that we are the parents and they must OBEY US. Like everything else, once it becomes a habit it will be much easier. If I say she must clean up, then she has to do it!
I am adapting this 'I must WIN' tactic from a mummy in teachingourown. I agree that at this time we should instill in them the need to obey us as parents as I guess it will be more difficult if you only want to start disciplining them at a later stage. I also believe that every parents have the power in moulding their own children, so how they turn out in future depends largely on how they were brought up and what was nurtured in them earlier. There is no way you can blame other people or situation - like peer pressure or media or such - on your responsibility.
O you who believe! Protect yourselves and your families from Hell fire, At-Tahrim:6I am also practising the zikr Ya Latif everytime she seems to be stubborn and insyaAllah everynight when she's asleep. May she become a Solehah child and may Allah give whats best for her Dunya wa Akhirah. O Allah do show us the best way in raising and nurturing our children to your path. Amin.
Mama and Abah love you!
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